You
may remind yourself a hundred times that you shouldn't get angry, but
when the emotion comes, you are unable to control it. It comes like a
thunderstorm. Emotions are much more powerful than your thoughts. What
can you do when anger rises in you?
Anger
is a distortion of your true nature and it doesn't allow the self to
shine forth fully. The structure of human consciousness or the mind is
very similar to that of an atom. The positively charged protons and
neutrons are in the center of the atom while the negatively charged
particles are only on the circumference. Similarly, even in human
consciousness, mind and life, all the negativities and vices are only in
the periphery. Your true nature is peace and love.
Showing
anger itself is not wrong, but being unaware of your anger only hurts
you. Sometimes you can show anger purposefully. For example, a mother
gets angry at her children and can act tough or shout at them if she feels that they have
put themselves in danger. There are situations that warrant showing
anger, but when you get angry, have you observed what happens to you?
You are shaken completely. Look at the consequences of getting angry.
Are you happy with the decisions you have made or the words you have
spoken in a state of anger? No, because you lose your total awareness.
But if you are completely aware and are acting angry, that is fine and up to oneself to face the consequence.
Being in the Present Moment
All
anger is about something which has already happened. Is it of any use
getting angry about something which you cannot alter? The mind always oscillates between the past and the future. When the mind is in the
past, it's angry about something that had already happened; but anger is
meaningless as we can't alter the past. And when the mind is in the
future, it's anxious about something that may or may not happen. When
the mind is in the present moment, anxiousness and anger appear so
meaningless.
Spiritual
practices help you maintain your centeredness and not be shaken by
small events. This is where a little knowledge about yourself, your
mind, your consciousness and the root of distortion in our nature helps.
It is when you are exhausted and stressed that you lose your nature and
get angry. Every individual is bestowed with all the virtues in the
world. They simply get covered-up by lack of understanding and stress.
What is needed is just to uncover the virtues that are already there.
The Secret of the Breath
Breathing
techniques and meditation are very effective in calming the mind.
Learning something about our breath is very important. Our breath has a
great lesson to teach us, which we have forgotten. For every rhythm in
the mind, there is a corresponding rhythm in the breath and for every
rhythm in the breath there is a corresponding emotion. So, when you
cannot handle your mind directly, you can handle it through breath.
Meditation is letting go of anger from the past and the events of the
past. Meditation is accepting this moment and living every moment
totally with depth. Often anger comes because you do not accept the
present moment. Anger comes when one seeks too much of perfection. When
you are joyful, you don't look for perfection. If you are always looking
for perfection then you are not at the source of joy.
The
world appears imperfect on the surface but, underneath, all is perfect.
Perfection hides; imperfection shows off. The wise will not remain
merely on the surface but will probe into the depth. Things are not
blurred; your vision is blurred. Infinite actions prevail in the
wholeness of consciousness, and yet the consciousness remains perfect,
untouched. Realise this now and be natural.
Anger is a condition in which tongue speaks faster than the mind. You can't change the past but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future - Unknown