Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Where does parenting end?????

This is a very thought provoking title and very sensitive too. I just returned to my place of residence after my second daughter's wedding. And when I met my friends here, the only question posed to me was that as both my children are married, and so now WHAT? I never had an answer for this question. But, this thought of raising children and letting them go and being empty handed now left me puzzled about life.Hence, thought of penning a few words on it.

" Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the activity of raising a child rather than the biological relationship." - Wiki

The job of parenting begins as soon as the woman conceives. The announcement of the arrival, shopping for the baby, the planning as to who would be coming to help at the time of labor etc etc. When the D-day arrives, all hell break loose. All planning goes into doldrums. Path of life moulds and moves alongwith the moods of the baby including the daily routine of the parents. As the child grows, the individual man and woman begin to come together alongwith the child to become a family, Then on, their life starts centering around the child. It is a very busy cycle and the parents also grow up alongwith the child,  till they reach their mid 50's. This is the time when their children are either attending college or at work and mostly away from home

I ponder to myself as to how my parenting time went by. Sitting back and thinking hard, I am left with only a blank. No account at all of those days, as it just vanished in a jiffy, but I was busy nurturing them, thinking about their future and the day to day solutions, unforeseen problems etc etc. At the end of all these activities, all I could see were two grown up daughters who were ready to begin a life of their own.

As a parent, I feel content when I see them settling down with their respective spouses. I feel a sense of achievement having showed them the right path in life which has made them wonderful human beings. . When I hear them narrating some incidents of their daily life, I feel it is only a replay of mine. So, this is only a vicious circle which my mother would have felt when I left her and now I am feeling the same.

But, the duty does not end there. New relationships tag us along into a new circle of which we need to play our part. I wish to continue being a parent, may not be an active member in their day to day life, but be there whenever they want me.

Now, I have an answer to the question :):) This is a continuous process which originates when we give birth to them and that does not have an end.

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